When most prospective dog owners bring a new puppy or rescue dog into their homes, their training syllabus is predictable. They envision a list of classic commands: "sit," "stay," "down," and "loose-leash walking." These behaviors are the gold standard of the canine obedience world, and for good reason—they provide the essential framework for safety and social integration.

However, certified dog trainer and Whole Dog Journal contributor Jae Thomas suggests that we have been approaching the curriculum in the wrong order. In a recent interview with Kate O’Connor, Thomas argues that if owners focus on commands before establishing psychological foundations, they are effectively building a house on a shifting foundation of sand. According to Thomas, there are three essential "pre-commands"—settling, engagement, and the mechanics of learning—that must be mastered before a dog can truly excel at traditional obedience.


The Core Philosophy: Why Basic Cues Fail

The current paradigm of dog training often prioritizes "output" over "input." Owners want a dog that obeys commands immediately, often ignoring the internal state of the animal. If a dog is overstimulated, anxious, or fundamentally unaware of how to interact with its owner, a command like "sit" becomes a battle of wills rather than a successful communication.

Thomas posits that when we skip the foundational work, we inadvertently create "command-dependent" dogs—animals that only function when being told what to do, rather than dogs that possess the emotional regulation to navigate the world independently.


The Three Pillars of Canine Development

1. The Art of the "Off Switch": Teaching Settling

The most glaring omission in modern training, according to Thomas, is the failure to teach a dog how to be bored. Many modern breeds, particularly those with high working drives, do not come with an innate "off switch." They are perpetual motion machines that, if left unguided, develop into anxious or destructive adults.

Teaching a dog to settle—whether in a crate, a playpen, on a tether, or a designated "place" bed—is the most vital skill for long-term coexistence. This is not about confinement; it is about cognitive rest. Thomas notes that for some dogs, this can be learned in a few days; for others, particularly those with high-energy temperaments, it is a developmental process that spans months or even years. By normalizing the "settle," owners empower their dogs to transition from high-intensity play to calm observation, a skill that makes travel, public outings, and hosting guests a peaceful experience rather than a combat mission.

2. The Foundation of Relationship: Building Engagement

"Engagement" is a term frequently bandied about in professional training circles, but Thomas defines it specifically as a dog’s voluntary choice to direct their attention toward the handler. When an owner forces engagement—by shouting, waving treats, or using physical touch to get a dog’s focus—they are effectively competing with the environment.

True engagement is a symbiotic loop. The dog chooses the owner because the owner is, in the dog’s estimation, the most rewarding element in the room. This does not require constant bribery. Instead, it requires the handler to be an observant partner. By noticing and rewarding the micro-moments where a dog checks in—a brief glance, a physical proximity, or a pause in sniffing—the owner reinforces the behavior of looking to them for guidance. A dog who finds their owner intrinsically rewarding is a dog that is significantly easier to train when faced with high-level distractions.

3. Developing the "Learning Mindset"

The third pillar is the most meta-cognitive: teaching the dog how to learn. This involves understanding the mechanics of communication. Thomas emphasizes "shaping-style" training, a choice-based approach where the dog is encouraged to experiment.

In this model, the handler provides a clear criterion (a goal), marks the success of the behavior (with a clicker or a marker word like "yes"), and provides a high-value reinforcement. This process teaches the dog that they are an active participant in the training process, not just a passive object to be manipulated. As Thomas puts it, "dogs do what works." When a dog discovers that solving a problem leads to a reward, their confidence skyrockets, and their willingness to tackle more complex tasks increases exponentially.


Chronology of the Training Progression

To understand how these foundations integrate into a dog’s life, we must look at the developmental chronology recommended by trainers like Thomas:

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  • Phase One (The Home Sanctuary): Focus exclusively on settling and environmental management. The dog learns that the house is a place of calm. Engagement is built through low-pressure, routine interactions.
  • Phase Two (The Dialogue): Introducing the "learning to learn" phase. Short, 3-to-5-minute sessions of shaping behaviors. The goal here is not to perfect a "sit," but to teach the dog to experiment with their body and watch the human for feedback.
  • Phase Three (The Integration): Only after the dog understands how to settle and how to engage does the formal teaching of basic cues begin. Because the dog is already calm and attentive, "sit," "stay," and "leash walking" are learned with significantly higher precision and lower frustration.
  • Phase Four (The Real World): Generalization. Taking these skills into increasingly distracting environments, relying on the solid foundation of the "off switch" and the strong, rewarding relationship established in the home.

Supporting Data: Why "Choice-Based" Training Works

The shift toward choice-based, positive reinforcement training is backed by decades of behavioral science. Studies in animal cognition consistently show that when animals have agency—the ability to influence their environment through their own choices—stress hormones like cortisol decrease, and dopamine levels increase.

By contrast, coercive training—forcing a dog into a position or using intimidation to command attention—triggers the sympathetic nervous system. When a dog is in a state of fear or avoidance, their cognitive capacity to learn new, complex behaviors is severely inhibited. Thomas’s emphasis on "choice" is not a soft approach; it is a physiological necessity for effective brain function in dogs.


Official Responses and Industry Consensus

The approach advocated by Thomas aligns with the broader move within the International Association of Animal Behavior Consultants (IAABC) and the Association of Professional Dog Trainers (APDT). These organizations have increasingly distanced themselves from traditional dominance-based theories, which prioritize human control over animal welfare.

However, even within the positive-reinforcement community, there is a recurring debate regarding the "basics." Critics of the "foundations-first" approach often argue that safety is paramount. If a dog is not taught to "sit-stay" or have a reliable recall early on, they are at risk of injury. Thomas addresses this concern directly: "None of this means letting safety behaviors slide." She clarifies that the foundational work is not a replacement for safety training; it is the underpinning that makes safety training reliable. A dog who has been taught how to learn and how to engage will respond to a safety recall with far more speed and reliability than a dog who has been trained via fear-based coercion.


Implications for the Modern Pet Owner

The implications of this shift are profound for the average pet owner. It suggests that the "problem dog" is often simply a dog that has been asked to perform complex tasks before it has been given the tools to self-regulate or communicate.

1. Reducing Behavioral Issues

Many common behavioral problems—leash reactivity, separation anxiety, and indoor destruction—are direct results of a lack of these foundations. A dog that cannot settle will inevitably struggle with separation. A dog that has not been taught to engage will often seek out the environment (chasing squirrels, barking at passersby) because it has no stronger bond with the owner.

2. A Shift in Human Perspective

For the owner, this requires a fundamental change in ego. It is tempting to want to show off a dog that knows 20 tricks, but a dog that can calmly sit at a cafe while the owner drinks coffee is a far more impressive testament to a trainer’s skill. This approach demands patience. It requires the owner to stop viewing the dog as a robotic command-receiver and start viewing them as a thinking, feeling partner in a shared environment.

3. Long-Term Success

The ultimate implication is a longer, more harmonious life for the dog. Dogs that are understood and taught how to navigate human society through cooperation rather than command-following are less likely to be surrendered to shelters. They become true companions, capable of adapting to the chaotic nature of human life because they have been taught the internal skills to manage their own impulses.


Conclusion: The Path Forward

Jae Thomas’s perspective serves as a timely reminder that in the world of dog training, the most important work is often the invisible work. While the public eye focuses on the impressive agility of a show dog or the perfect obedience of a service animal, the real magic happens in the living room, where a dog is taught to lay down and settle, to look at their owner with interest, and to find joy in the process of discovery.

By slowing down, focusing on the foundations of settling, engagement, and learning, and prioritizing the dog’s choice, we do not just get a better-behaved pet—we cultivate a deeper, more resilient bond. As the industry continues to evolve, the message is clear: if you want a dog that obeys, start by teaching them how to be, rather than just what to do.